The trouble with learning to parent on the job is that your child is the teacher. ~Robert Brault

Monday, March 2, 2009

Don’t Skip This Dinner

Don’t Skip This Dinner

Mornings in Silicon Valley…Don’t even ask about them. They’re mainly full of hopping on tight schedules and as far as I am concerned, family time may end by each member of the family filing out the door. Evenings however, should definitely be different or we’re risking family ties. Positive relations between family members are essential but they don’t last without nurturing. We can take dinner time to nurture, and sustain healthy relations.
Dining tables whether they’re solid wood or plastic, can offer more than what we shopped for. Everyone in the family should make every effort to join the daily family dinner. Kids should take part in setting or cleaning the table no matter how busy or sloppy they might be. This 10 minutes chore will give them another perspective of what it takes to be part of a family.
Most of all, talk at dinner time. Each one including parents, should take turn mentioning the important things that happened that day. When parents seek their children’s advice, children will do the same when needed. Children should listen to their parents talk about what went wrong in their day and what went right. When it’s the child’s turn, let’s really listen and ask the important questions to show that we truly care. There is no time for details but the main points ought to do the trick of bonding the family.
Some kids will not know how to share their day so here are some questions that will help them get there in shaa Allah:
What was the best thing that happened to you today?
What was the worst thing that happened today?
What did you do in the recess?
Who did you spend your recess with?
These will give you an idea of what’s on top of your child’s head in shaa Allah and you’ll know who her friends are.
मरवा सबरी
a mother who studied the art of childhood

1 comment:

Veiled Beauty said...

I am not a mother, but a daughter. Nevertheless, there is true significance to what you say.